A while ago I posted about authenticity and that, according to Gabby Bernstein (and many others, no doubt), our truth – right here and now – is all we need to offer other people; our “authentic self” is what attracts others to us, and allowing ourselves to be who we are is the only thing that brings us lasting contentment.
I have made a decision to live with this in mind.
The way I eat/exercise/live will not resonate with everyone, but I have always tried to post what I love (whether here on my blog, or elsewhere)…
Borrowing from my “about” page:
“As you will notice if you trawl the archives of this blog right back to its inception, all the recipes here are vegetarian. Many have a health-focused leaning, be it on organic/seasonal produce, or gluten-free, or sugar-free… or a combination. I am vegetarian (of the ovo-lacto variety), although when I started this blog I was not. I simply preferred to cook and eat vegetarian food.
My husband is vegan and, increasingly, I am eating plant-based, partly out of sheer convenience and partly because I enjoy it*. I have also embraced many aspects of the I Quit Sugar program, because the “real food” principles upon which it is based make perfect sense, and because it has been health affirming for me.
You’ll hopefully find some different recipes here. What you wont find is judgement about the way you personally choose to eat. I’m here to share what I have been cooking myself, and what I love… and in doing so, hopefully provide a little inspiration to others.”
So that is it, in a nutshell.
When I first became a vegetarian in my mid-teens, I found a cause that I was genuinely passionate about, but also one through which I found justification to vent my angst. On one occasion, I sneakily stuck “meat is murder” posters around the school tuck shop**. Yes, I was angry about factory farming (and I still am), but if I am honest, I was also angry in general… and I wanted an outlet. As far as I am aware I was the only vegetarian in my senior school (“vegan” wasn’t even “a thing” back then where I lived 😉 ) and so, to anyone who knew me, it would have been obvious who the “tuck shop vandal” was (I wasn’t exactly a criminal mastermind). In any case, I’ll tell you how many people I converted to vegetarianism as a result of that stunt:
I remained a vegetarian for seven years. It simply became habitual over time. During that period of my life, three guys I dated and many of my close friends became vegetarian. And they said that one of the reasons was because they’d seen how “easy” it was for me. Without even meaning to influence others, at least a dozen people in my life became vegetarian, not because I preached at them, but partly because I simply lived the way I did. Even when I gave up vegetarianism (due to extremely poor health***), they remained vegetarian. And now that I have found a way to eat a vegetarian diet again that works for me (health-wise), I am rejoining them! 😉
If I post a Paleo recipe, it certainly doesn’t mean I am “anti-vegan”, or vice versa (in fact every single Paleo recipe I have posted has also been vegan). Liking the I Quit Sugar program does not mean I don’t appreciate a beautifully presented cake (in fact I studied a pastry diploma course last year!). Some of my favourite accounts on Instagram are very fruit-centric, even though my diet is not. Liking running does not mean I don’t like yoga (in fact, I love both and think they compliment each other well). Practicing yoga does not make me Hindu (and if I was, I wouldn’t mean I’d automatically practice yoga). Posting a selfie from a race day once in a blue moon does not make me a narcissist. And, yes, I eat berries, bread and chocolate. 🙂
Things are not necessarily black or white. And maybe that makes my personal lifestyle impossible to define by one term, but that’s ok with me.
If you have found a path in life that brings you health and happiness – whatever it may be – , I applaud your courage to stick to it and wish you well on your unique journey. If you are generous, honest and share your inspiration with others, I think that is wonderful too. If you are dissatisfied and suspect that certain lifestyle changes will aid your wellbeing and give you peace of mind, then I can only encourage you to keep searching until you find what resonates with/works for you. I have, very organically, found a combination of lifestyle-related things that, when applied, seem to give me increased self-awareness, better health and greater balance than I have had before. But I don’t think my way is necessarily for everyone. And I don’t think I have “arrived”. I will keep exploring and, I hope, keep growing.
I started my Instagram account around 10 months ago and always intended it to be a reflection of what was happening in my life, just as this blog is. If someone’s lifestyle differs in some aspects from mine, but they are clearly on a journey to be happy and healthy, I try to be encouraging and supportive. I try not to judge. I try to treat others as I would like to be treated myself; with kindness and respect.
I feel blessed and incredibly grateful to have been the recipient of generous support and nothing but positivity here and on other social media platforms. And regardless of whether that continues, I’ll continue to post what makes me happy, as the best I can offer others is my truth and love.
At the end of the day, you may not be able to please all people all the time, but you can still be kind… and bring happiness to your own life by doing what you love!
❤ MM xx
*In fact, I love vegan food! My diet is 95% plant-based, if not more. And if a dish manages to be vegan, sugar-free, gluten-free and delicious, it ticks all my “ideal” boxes!
***My poor health was not linked to vegetarianism per se, but was rather due to not eating enough, an inability to cook and depression-induced apathy regarding nutrition/my general wellbeing.